darklynoon:

The coffee I just made tastes like ass, and while I don’t mind the taste of ass, I prefer that coffee and ass were not indistinguishable. 

doriandawes = histrionic manipulation

doriandawes:

magicpoppy:

roseverbena:

doriandawes:

Cross-posted from doriandawes.com, because I think it’s important

Today, I saw something that upset me.

No, most people do not.  Most people acknowledge trans people to be the severely deluded people that they are.  It is people with gender-addled brains, such as deluded trans cultists, who misuse the concept of sexual orientation to include trans distortions.  By “sexual orientation” most sane people are referring to sex-based attraction, because that is what sexual orientation refers to.  Go look it up in the Oxford Dictionary, gender is not mentioned.  Sex is biological reality.  Gender is sexism and made up nonsense.  As a gay male I am attracted to other males.  I’m not going to fuck/date a trans who has deluded herself into thinking she’s a gay male.  Gay males aren’t attracted to females.  I’m not attracted to someone’s jendah identity.  I can hardly believe that trans are so deluded that they can’t see this.  Sheesh, I can’t believe I used to be transgender.  So glad I got out of this demented mind-fuck cult and sought recovery.

I don’t even think there’s enough time or books that could be written to go into how screwed up this statement is.  There is quite a bit of hypocrisy and distorted altruisms [sic] within this one paragraph alone, contradicting itself at nearly every turn. It is even possible that this person is not the bigot that they’re making themselves out to be, but is in fact nothing more than just a mentally-ill person with a computer and lack of supervision.

[RV: IS THERE A MIRROR IN YOUR HOUSE?]

Or perhaps they simply lack the ability to communicate coherently and basic argument-based logic skills.

Regardless, I think that to decide what is and is not someone else’s sexual orientation and gender is the same arrogant, pompous mentality that says that one person knows what is good for the majority. You are not these people, nor have you ever taken a walk in their shoes. It is not your business what gender they define themselves as, let alone your business to decide whether or not they are a homosexual.

[RV: THE ENTIRE ENTIRE ENGLISH-SPEAKING POPULATION ALREADY MADE THIS DECISION FOR YOU. WORDS HAVE MEANING. LEARN THEM.]

People who are uncomfortable with someone else’s sexual choices and sexual identity are the same people who arrest lesbians for trying to get married, the same people who murder gay men, who beat up transgendered women just trying to walk home from work. They’re the kinds of people who decide what is and is not a human being deserving of human rights. They are the worst kinds of people as their minds are so small that in order to make themselves feel more secure they have to restrict others for fear that their worldview might be expanded.

[RV: NO, HYSTERICAL CRAZY-PERSON. THEY ARE THE KINDS OF PEOPLE WHO DON’T WANT TO FUCK YOU. THEY GET TO CHOOSE WHOM THEY FUCK. REALLY.]

What is tragic to me is the thinking reflected in the absurd paragraph above is reflected quite often in the homosexual community. One would think that having suffered the same amount of bigotry and hate from society, that one would be quick to defend those undergoing the same persecution. Unfortunately, this is not the case. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve encountered not only transphobic statements, but also racism within the Gay Community.

[RV: STOP CONFLATING RACISM WITH PEOPLE NOT WANTING TO FUCK YOU. THEY’RE NOT THE SAME THING. REALLY.]

“Trannies scare me, lol.”

“I can’t stand black men. White boys only.”

Are two of the most common phrases I’ve heard from gay men in public interactions and through social media. This is disgusting. It is wrong. It needs to stop.

Very often we love to brag about how progressive and evolved we are as a people, yet I’m beginning to think that we are less evolved. I’m beginning to wonder if we might actually be devolving. We seem to be regressing in our ways of thinking to more limited and narrow scopes of view, so tied are we by the concepts of gender and sexual identity. Even skin color seems still to be an issue, an absolute  travesty in modern-society.

It’s 2012 and we’re still putting people into all these little boxes. Kids are tweeting about how upset that they are that a black actress played their favorite character in the Hunger Games. JJ Abrams is allowed to say that ” a gay character in Star Trek would be too distracting” and nobody gets mad at him for his homophobic comments. Our president is allowed to say that he’s for “gay marriage” and nobody holds him accountable to actually make it happen.

We have a complete facade of tolerance and acceptance, yet by the very definition of tolerance alone we prove what hypocrites we are. One should not have to be tolerant of ethnic or sexual differences. That means that it actually makes you uncomfortable but you just keep your mouth shut about it.  We should be completely comfortable with what two consenting parties do with one another behind closed doors. That’s it. That’s all it really should be.

[RV: FINE. THEN WE GET TO SAY ‘NO’ TO SEX WITH YOU, TOO. WHOM WE CHOOSE FOR SEX IS NOT YOUR CALL.]

All these different labels cropping up all over the place are nothing more than little clubs people want to identify with and be a part of, and while that’s cool and everything, I don’t believe we’ll have truly evolved until we can do away with the concept of race, gender, and sexuality, because in the future where everyone has finally progressed beyond these infantile stages of thinking, these things will no longer matter.

So please, tell me again how my friend is any less of a gay man because his boyfriend wasn’t born with a dick between his legs.

[RV: BECAUSE SHE’S FEMALE AND FEMALES ARE NOT GAY MALES. MALES CAN BE GAY MALES; FEMALES CAN NOT BE GAY MALES  BY DEFINITION. ]

Rose Verbena:

Oh, the histrionics. Oh, the manipulation. Oh, the histrionic manipulation:

“If you don’t want to fuck me, you must also want to set people on fire. If you don’t want to fuck me, you must also want to go back to slavery times. If you don’t want to fuck me, you must also believe in burning gay men and lesbians as witches. Blah-blah-blah. Blah-blah-blah. Aieeeeeee!!!!!” 

Nope, we just understand that words in any language have meaning, and the term “gay male” already has a meaning. It means males who are sexually/emotionally attracted to relationships with other males. That’s what it means. We understand that “lesbian” means females who are sexually/emotionally attracted to relationships with other females. That’s what it means. We understand that bisexuals are attracted to both males and females. We understand that heterosexuals are attracted only to the opposite sex.

Your inability to understand your own language is not our problem. You have a problem. You don’t understand your own language. That’s not our fault. We’re feeling kinda bad for you, what with your inability to understand your own language and all but really, YOU are the one with the problem.

Your obsession with gender-fucking is your problem. Your decision to ignore your own biology is your problem. Your need to force everyone to agree with your idiotic takes on sex, gender, queerness, etc. is YOUR PROBLEM. The rest of us have families, school, jobs, creative interests, pets, stuff to read, stuff to do. We don’t make an obsessive hobby out of playing with gender. We think it’s sexist and stupid. Your obsessive gender games bore us to tears. We’re perfectly comfortable with the real, well-established definitions of ‘gay male’ and ‘lesbian’ and ‘bisexual’ and ‘heterosexual’.

Go cry a river of tears in your therapists office and let the rest of us get on with our lives without you relentlessly forcing your gender blather on us. It’s rude. It’s stupid. It’s oppressive. We’re over your gender obsessions. Go away until you learn how to behave in the human community.

Rose Verbena locuta, causa finita

People who assume that I’m a transwoman or a transman because I’m defending transgendered people or that I’m concerned about who does and doesn’t want to fuck me.

I’d avoided the series of bad trolls who stalk and harass people through this site as their lives are so pathetic that they’ve nothing else to do, but the above title and the newfound obsession with my person gave me pause for a giggle. I think I’ve made fairly valid statements in my article, that have yet to be refuted by those who are so obsessed with their own status as homosexuals that they treat queer as if it were an exclusive club to which only they belonged. There’s a circular logic to each of their argument patterns, and a kind of sandbox-mentality.

I say sandbox, not as a metaphor for the close-minded walls of their thinking (though this is also applicable), but as a comparison to the origin of their debate tactics. They get mad because your sand-castle is nice and pretty and they’re too lazy to build one of their own, so they come over, kick yours and tell you how stupid they think you are in an attempt to make you cry.

Obviously, it’s not working.

Actually, I hope they continue to mock and reblog the shit out of this post. I hope their obsession grows. Please, continue to push my name higher and higher up on the Google analytics list. I have a book I’m trying to publish, people. Make me a household name, goddammit. 

Yes, you silly creatures. I’m a white, cisgendered, gay male who supports trans-people. Fucking deal with it. I’m also a feminist. Fucking deal with it. I do not believe that what is between your legs defines your gender. Fucking deal with it. 

I also think that everyone has the right to their own opinion, even you. I think that they have the right to express that opinion without fear of harassment. So, I’m going to ignore your existence after saying my two cents and agree to disagree with you. I’m going to throw this out there, but I’m not fond with the way your social circle seems to stalk and harass others for the pure purpose of throwing your opinions in their face.

Opinions and religions both can be expressed through the same metaphor of a penis. It’s great that you have one. Really. But please, sometimes whipping it out in public and shoving it in my face is just fucking rude. Stalking someone with it so you can beat them silly with your penis because you’re proud of it, because you feel that penises like yours are the only ones worth having, because that penis is right, is just silly and frankly I think you need more help than a simple blog-response is capable of delivering.

Blessed be.

I shall reblog this to push Dorian’s name higher onto the Google Analytic list because I love everything he says in this ^_^

Bizarre Victorian fact of the day…

vicfangirlguide:

Victorian mourning customs differed vastly depending on the gender of the mourner. A widow was required to wear entirely black clothing for at least 2 years after the death of her husband whereas a widower was expected to wear a black armband or hatband with his usual attire for only 3 months.